23 Ways to Treat Yourself No Matter How You're Feeling Right Now
You deserve a treat. Really. So, we’re sharing 23 suggestions for how to treat yourself. But first, here’s why experts say you need treats.
“Treating ourselves is a form of self-care that every one of us deserves to have,” says certified psychiatrist Nereida Gonzalez-Berrios, M.D. “Research has shown that people who indulge in a little self-care every day are emotionally mature, loving, patient, less prone to anger, and can take care of others around them in a much better way.”
Treating yourself also boosts your mood. “It increases the affection and love we feel toward ourselves, and it can give you something to look forward to, which can ultimately reduce stress and increase motivation,” says licensed psychologist Marcuetta Sims, Ph.D., owner and founder of Atlanta’s Worth, Wisdom, and Wellness Center. That motivation can also hold you accountable.
And, despite what you may think, you don’t need a reason to treat yourself. “Treating yourself shouldn’t just be a luxury at the end of a trial or tribulation,” Sims says. “It can be a regular part of your life.”
1. Buy Coffee
We don’t mean hitting the Starbucks drive-through for your usual triple-shot espresso to wake you up before work. Head out to a local shop and indulge in a fancy drink that you normally wouldn’t order.
This may not be a treat for everyone, but it’ll certainly be refreshing if you always feel obligated to answer work emails or text messages, even when you need some alone time.
3. Take a Nap
A short snooze can help reduce stress, boost energy, and make you feel like a new person.
4. Say No
If you’re a people-pleaser, learning to establish boundaries can really protect your mental health. If someone asks you to do something that you don’t have time or energy for, politely decline.
5. Head Outdoors
Taking a walk or hike, sitting in the park, enjoying a picnic, or doing anything else in mother nature boosts mental health. Embrace the benefits of being outside!
6. Pick Up a Hobby
Going back to an old activity you enjoy often makes you wonder, “Why did I stop doing this?” And learning a new hobby feels rewarding, even if it’s hard at first. Try both!
7. Try a Mindfulness Practice
It doesn’t matter if you meditate, journal, do restorative yoga, or simply sit quietly. In the busy, loud world we live in, a few moments of peace can make a big difference.
8. Take Yourself on a Date
Choose a restaurant you love or have been wanting to try and order whatever you want. Resist the urge to scroll and enjoy the “me” time instead.
9. Sleep in
You know you want to, so turn off the alarm and do it!
10. Get a Spa Treatment
Whether you prefer a facial, massage, or mani-pedi, it will feel amazing. And if you’ve never tried any of these, read up on them and choose one that appeals most.
11. Buy a New Outfit or Accessories
Maybe it’s a power suit, running shoes, or an extra-comfy robe. There’s no wrong answer!
12. Upgrade Your Space
Luxury towels, a piece of artwork, new plants for your porch, fancy linens, the pan you’ve been eyeing on Instagram, or even a new coffee pot — all of these treats will last for years.
13. Hire a Cleaning Service
Is there anything better than a spotless home without lifting a finger?
14. Cook Comfort Food
Mac and cheese, brownies, mashed potatoes, lasagna… Whip up whatever says “comfort” to you. (But try not to overindulge. If you eat comfort food every day, it’s just food.) Fueling your body with nutritious foods is another form of self-care and a way to treat yourself daily.
15. Book a Hotel or Vacation Rental
Spend the night (or a week!) in a fancy hotel or rental, order room service or takeout, and watch movies in bed.
16. Plan a Trip
According to one study, many people are happier researching and scheduling a vacation than they are on the actual vacation. Have fun exploring where to go, what to do, and where to eat.
17. Get a Haircut
Or a blowout. Two words: scalp massage.
18. Take a Day Off
And do whatever you want to do — no chores, work, or anything else that feels like a “must.”
19. Book an Experience
20. Take a Long Shower or Bath
Maybe light some candles, play relaxing music, and try a luxurious bath oil or facial mask too.
21. Explore a Nearby City
You don’t have to travel across the world to experience something new! There’s bound to be an attraction you’ve been wanting to check out.
22. Order Meal Delivery
Unlike meal kits that send ingredients to cook, these services send you entire meals. All you have to do is heat things up (if that!).
23. Reach Out to a Friend
It doesn’t matter if you meet in person or over video or the phone. The point is to connect over quality time together.